WHY IS SEX A BIG DEAL?

Why is sex important in a relationship? 

Why has sex taken the place of intimate conversations and deep romantic activities? 

Most men want sex because they feel that's all the lady has got to offer, while most women want sex because they either wanna feel good or just do it to keep the man and make him happy.

There are sexless relationships that have proven to be happy, sincere and romantic. But as human beings, we can't all want the same thing at the same time; one partner may not be comfortable with the sexless arrangement and reserve a secret pail of water on the side to quench the thirst whenever it arises while their lover still clings to the celibacy agreement. 

Many ladies assume that sex is enough to tie down a wandering lover, others think withholding sex would have the man on a leash. But men and sex are like seawater and the shoreline, the same water gets to touch many beaches across the globe. If it's not found on the beaches of Ghana, it'd be kissing the sands of a beach in Lagos. 

Men were raised to think that sex from only one partner is some form of a disorder, which is why promiscuity is highest with their gender. Women, on the other hand, are easy to find love in a man whose penis makes their body feel certain strange sensations they'd never experienced before. This is the reason most women are afraid to give up the cookie because once it is served and treated the right way, they begin to catch the feeling and get stuck in an unholy sexual routine with Mr Wrong.

Women usually withhold sex from any man they like because they want to be sure he is not an asshole, but since they love to talk a lot; they give up all the tips to the stranger who now begins to look like the ideal man. Saying and doing exactly what she wants and how she wants it done. Then they fall in love and part their legs to satisfy the man of their dreams. He collects it, cleans his mouth, and starts acting funny, like an idiot. It dawns on the lady that she has just been used AGAIN by another con artist to whom she'd already bared her soul. 

Nothing destroys a good sexual relationship like "expected" expectations. Do not give up sex because you think it will make someone love, respect, or appreciate you more. If people got married or became loyal because of sex, most people wouldn't still be single or unmarried. Sex should not be a yardstick for anything, men are not wowed by sex the way women assume they are. Women want attachment, they want to be loved-up and their bodies treated like priceless treasures. This is why ladies generally want to start talking about commitment right after something has passed through something... 

"What are we doing?"

"Who am I to you?"

"Where are we going with this relationship?"

"Do you really love me?"

"Why don't you want people to know about us?"

"When am I meeting your parents?"

Men have gotten used to these questions that they now have ready-made answers and reactions to them. Men even expect these questions after the first or second encounters in the other room, and would tactfully manoeuvre through them without hurting the lady whose cookie he still needs for tomorrow's breakfast. 

In conclusion, do not think giving or withholding sex has any effect on men. If being the future wife is what you want, take it to the Lord in prayer. If you just wanna enjoy sex with them while waiting for the future husband, do not restrain yourself. Make sure you use the idiot and catch some helluva cruise because it would be calamitous to expire or die without "chopping" the life you were meant to "chop" as a young person. 

Life is not fair to anyone, both men and women are victims of time. But if you want heartbreaks and disappointments, seek love in a world full of scammers who only need you for sex, money, or fame. My advice, focus on your happiness. Seek it, find it, and use it wisely; it doesn't stay in one place for too long. 

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