MARRY FOR THE MONEY

 The other day I awoke to find that my number had been added to a wedding planning WhatsApp group without my consent, and the only topic for discussion was 'money contribution' to assist the groom-to-be on his forthcoming wedding. The said groom is someone whom I haven't met or spoken to in nearly ten years, but that's not why I'm writing this. 



Two days after that, I was mistakenly added to the bride-to-be's WhatsApp group where her friends were also soliciting the contribution of funds for a successful wedding.


Then I asked myself if these people were truly ready for this thing or if they just caved-in to societal pressures as usual.


Family and friends would crowdfund a wedding ceremony for a couple that does not have the means to handle their own shit. 🤬


I once asked a jobless friend who came to me for such contributions in the past how he planned to foot his bills after marriage since he didn't have enough to plan a wedding and rent a suitable apartment. He said he intended to invest all the cash donations and "sprays" he would get from the wedding reception. Eight months down the road, he called me that his wife has put to birth and his mother-in-law needed "transport money" to come over for Omu-something. 🙄


I do not waste time assisting such people because I know they've already regretted the decision to settle when they weren't financially and materially settled. 😢


Now, have you noticed how sometimes you contribute for their wedding and they completely sideline you with excuses of family troubles once they're married? 🤣


If you got married because you wanted kids, let the kids be your food and pay your bills. 👌🏾


If you got married because you're running out of time, let your clock pay your bills. 🤜🏾


If you got married because of a change in status and title, let your new "Mr/Mrs" title pay your bills. 💪🏾


If people think being financially stable isn't important before marriage, they should not ask for contributions or take cash donations on their wedding day. In fact, they should use their meagre savings, if it's enough, to have their simple wedding instead of becoming a nuisance to everybody because they want a society wedding. 😡


If I will have a stake in enjoying your wife after the wedding, please bring your wedding bills to me immediately. If not, I cannot help in financing irresponsibility in people who think marriage without planning is still a blessing.


Nothing beats PLANNING WELL before executing any task. 🙏🏾


©JBZ_2022

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